It’s been so long since I wrote and shared something in this series I created few years ago. Hello, I am back to blogging and on a new platform. This post is a special one…one that I can and want to re-read in the coming months or years. That me and my boyfriend can re-read in the coming years.
We are engaged! After three years, my boyfriend (now fiancé) and I finally met last November 2022 and he put a ring on my finger. I’ve been on a cloud-nine since then. I still cannot believe this happened to me, to us!
A little back story, we knew each other through an online game- PUBG Mobile. I was into gaming back in 2017-2018, one year after I got out of a relationship. I wanted to distract myself so I downloaded this mobile game. Just for fun, I matched with Filipino gamers who are in the Philippines, USA or other country. My sister who I asked to download the game just so we can play together, got matched on a random lobby with my fiancé that time.
He was really shy and quiet and I got really curious about him. Honestly, I only wanted to be friends with him and get to know him. I don’t know, maybe because I can hear the calmness of his voice through those voice chats- after being in a toxic relationship, it was nice to hear guy talk so calmly, and that’s one reason why I wanted to be friends with my him back then.
Months had passed, we started adding each other on Facebook, next thing you know the chats became daily and turned into phone calls then short video calls. It was nice to hear someone who is so calm and that you can feel- they’re being sincere to what they say and what they wanted. After couple months, we became a couple. And yes, it may seem fast and impossible knowing that it is through an online game, but he was different.
Three years had passed, on our trip to Baguio- he asked me to marry him. And I said yes! You might wonder, why I said yes (our first time meeting, long distance for three years), why did I said yes? Simple, his intentions were genuine, from our daily video calls to spending a month with him. The respect he had for me and for my family was a huge part of the reason why I said yes. Coming from a toxic relationship, it gave me anxiety and trauma to trust someone. He changed that- he made me believe that not all are the same. My heart felt so calm and every night I feel so peaceful. That was one of the few reasons why.
I found the man who gives me the comfort I needed, made me feel the love how I was supposed to feel. Despite the thousand miles apart, he made me feel I am special and loved. It was a different love: a love where I can be calm, be myself and a love who accepted my flaws. Everything changed when I knew him, most especially when I knew how he was towards his family.
I am sharing some details before and during the proposal:
Before The Proposal ~
We went home in November, in October he contacted my sister and she's the first one to know besides his sister. So my sister, my fiancé and his sister are all behind this. His sister and my sister were chatting (and I only knew this soon as we went back home in NJ in December), they were trying to get my ring size and I have few bunch of Pandora rings and that's how my sister got my ring size, without my knowledge. Makes sense why she was so pushy on getting my nails done before leaving for our vacation.
Couple days after we arrived in the Philippines, I had setup an appointment to get my hair done. There we met with my college friend at Starbucks (that's me, my sister, mom and my boyfriend), while we were ordering our coffee, my mom and my boyfriend were waiting for us at our table. That's the time he told my mom that he wanted to propose to me. That moment, I saw my mom from afar in tears, I had no clue that it was because he told his plan and when we went back to our seat, I asked my mom and said that they were just talking about some stuff that made her cry. I believed that.
When he told my dad his plan, we were at the house we are staying. His daily routine was making his coffee and sits outside to enjoy the morning while sipping his coffee and putting up a reggae playlist. One time, my sister was doing laundry, she overheard my boyfriend talking to my dad. She heard my dad on the other line saying not to hurt me and all advice a father can give. I even asked him after that who he was talking to just because my sister told me- and he denied and said he was on the phone with his family in Iloilo.
The Proposal ~
You know how others feel if their boyfriend is going to propose soon or something, I didn't feel any of that. It was a normal Baguio trip with my family for me, we stopped at the Strawberry Farm in La Trinidad and he insisted of going to the farm even if it is closed for picking, but still you can walk and enjoy and look at the farm- he confessed to me that his initial plan was to propose at the Strawberry Farm. We reached to mid farm just because he wanted to do it in there but got too nervous. So he proposed in our room, at the house we rented.
We just had lunch- and planned to take a nap before we head back out to visit the Night Market, I was laying in the bed getting ready for a nap and when he asked me to sit down for a second and next thing I knew, he grabbed something from his bag and started kneeling in front of me. Then we hugged, kissed and we both end up in tears, happy tears. It was just the two of us in the room, then when the landlord had to collect the payment, that's when my sister and mom saw my fiancé on his knees.
I still cannot believe that we are both engaged, even if we know that we wanted to get married in the future, all our future plans- being engaged and seeing a ring on my finger hits different. Different in a way, that I didn't see myself getting engaged and being a fiancée to one.
This is my heart being so happy and beyond grateful for all the things, lessons and experiences me and my fiancé are facing together. In God's time, this distance won't be a hindrance and we both will wake up having each other, getting things done together and spending everyday together.
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